Cynthia Nixon is taking a lot of heat right now for her assertion that for her, sexuality was a choice, and that fact doesn’t make her humanity or family any less valid. Good on her. I agree that the “born this way” line of thinking is in no small part pandering to bigots, as if who I sleep with would be anybody’s business under any circumstances. I respect the experience of anyone and everyone who believes they were born with a certain sexuality or gender identity, but I certainly believe circumstances and choices helped make me who I am today. I’ve never identified as anything other than a lesbian, but that doesn’t mean I couldn’t have.

Anyway, good for her. We need a bigger tent that includes all queer people, not a petty attempt to disown those who don’t toe the party line. Amen.